I'm a psychologist who studies couples: People in the happiest relationships do 1 thing differently after time apart—whether it's hours, days or weeks

Psychologist Mark Travers argues that the first few minutes after time apart are key to a close, happy relationship, and shares five tips to get them right.

I'm a psychologist who studies couples: People in the happiest relationships do 1 thing differently after time apart—whether it's hours, days or weeks

TL;DR

  • Happy couples prioritize 'reentry moments' – the first two minutes after reuniting after any separation.
  • These moments help partners connect emotionally, assess each other's state, and share updates.
  • Skipping reentry moments can lead to outdated perceptions of a partner and emotional distance.
  • Effective reentry involves being specific with questions, following up on responses, and communicating personal needs.
  • Reciprocity is key, ensuring both partners share and listen, and that conversations lead to action.